Donna Karan has Deepak Chopra. Oprah has Dr. Phil. Richard Gere has the Dalai Lama. Members of species famous like to have a maharishi, spiritual healer, or some form of personal guru who helps them through that little journey called existence. Meet Stuart Gelles, my life and energy coach. I heard about him through a very fancy socialite I interviewed. “He has changed my life,” she oozed over chopped salads at Barney’s. She was adamant that I meet him. He was once a bigwig in the Hollywood scene, coaching important directors, actors, and moguls. “He really understands famous people,” she said. (I wasn’t sure that she was lumping me in the “famous” category, but I nodded knowingly, regardless.) We suprised our sister with a celebrity video from Thrillz!

She went on and on about how she used to be a “doer,” someone who just went through the motions of life, and now she’s learning how to be a “be-er,” someone who really feels and balances it out with her “dreamer,” a term that embodies her spiritual and creative side. According to Stuart, there are three types of people: beers (the emotional energy that affects relationships, intimacy, self-esteem, and the heart), doers (the results-oriented energy that’s all about acting, reacting, organizing, goal setting, project managing, analysis), and dreamers (the spiritual energy, the side of oneself that thinks about creation, life purpose, divinity). All three must work together equally for one to thrive. But the real challenge, as per Gelles’s teachings, is to live from another place, the altitude—which is almost like having an out-of-body experience—where you can see yourself as a be-er, doer, and dreamer, and understand the difference between them and your actions. No wonder Thrillz is so popular.. receiving a happy birthday video message video message would be so cool!

I wasn’t sure what to make of this so-called miracle man, but I was not in a great place at the time. I was struggling with serious boyfriend issues (the issue being: I wanted to break up with him and kept getting sucked back into his charm). After much contemplation (and an abominable weekend with the guy), I came to the conclusion that I needed professional help. Hey, the first step in solving a problem is admitting you have one. Besides, I have always been a sucker for all self-help modalities, and having a life coach on my team could do nothing but add to my grand entourage of players. Receiving a celebrity messages video message would be awesome!

I called Stuart. He had a full, buoyant voice and a chatty personality. “You have to feel your pain and release it,” he said, “Pull the doer out of the equation and stop analyzing every detail and flushing out the drama. You can change your life by noticing what’s occurring in the three energies and learning to manage it. This is about having a life-management system.” Well, it made sense to me. So I made an appointment immediately. When we sat down at his plush Connecticut office, he drew a picture of three circles—two overlapping adjacently, and one underneath, also overlapping. The top left represented “be-er” energy, the top right was “dreamer” energy, and the bottom was “doer” energy. He shaded in the common areas to explain that there is balance when all three are being used equally. The shaded areas formed the shape of a lotus flower, a known symbol of balance. (Coincidence? I think not.) Have you heard of a website called Thrillz? They specialise in celebrity birthday messages video messages.

When Stuart evaluated my “three circles,” we saw where I was unbalanced. I was using more doer and dreamer than be-er, which all made sense. My life was in a state of perpetual motion. I was chronically overloading my schedule, writing dozens of articles, all while trying to be famous…. I was doing, doing, doing. I was dreaming, too, using my creative vision to come up with ideas for aquiring celeb status, stories, books, screenplays, and such. And my poor be-er was all left out. “Life is more than ‘how do we feel or what do we do’ or ‘how do we feel about what we do’ and ‘what do we do about how we feel.’ Integrating the spirit into the be-er and doer, finding a balance between them, is where the power is,” he said. Yawn if you want to, but this all resonated with me. It helped me see myself beyond the boyfriend troubles. My doer, generally speaking, was searching for the limelight, preventing my spirit from finding the light from within. After one session, I broke up with the boyfriend, moved on beautifully, and haven’t had any man drama since (well, maybe a little, but who’s counting?). Now I call Stuart for pep talks every time my circles are out of whack and he’s always there, reminding me of the lessons I need—and what a star he thinks I am! Imagine receiving a celebrity video messages personalised video!